Talk to Fa

Every night, I look at pictures taken a year ago today, two years ago today, three years ago today, and so on.

Five years ago today, my hands were covered in oozing eczema caused by a combination of anxiety, extreme stress, and an imbalanced diet. I was pouring all of my energy into things that weren’t mine. I was depressed and burned out. I was frustrated. I didn’t know who I was. I kept convincing myself, “This is what I want.” It wasn’t. By the end of that year, my ex-husband and I started living separately. We’d been together for fourteen years.

Four years ago today, I hiked to the summit of the Acatenango volcano in Guatemala and saw the sunrise. It was cold, misty, and unbelievably majestic. The climb was brutal because of the loose volcanic gravel. You take three steps forward and two steps back. My intuition had told me I needed to do something physically challenging to reach a particular realization, and I did. A couple of weeks later, I finally had the courage to tell my ex I wanted a divorce.

Three years ago today, I was healing from a sliced finger and a broken heart. I was supposed to meet and have a conversation with someone significant to me. The night before the alleged convo, I sliced my finger while cooking and spent all night at the ER. The incident must have been an ominous premonition. The conversation didn’t happen, leaving me saddened, unfulfilled, and unsettled.

Two years ago today, I’d been back home in Japan for two months. I caught COVID in late 2022 and needed to heal and recover under the care of my family. I had all these weird autoimmune symptoms and ended up staying for seven long months. I thought I was only staying for a couple of weeks at the most. During those months, I worked out and sweated it out, changed my diet completely, and rebuilt my foundation. I tackled the root causes of my health issues through trial and error without relying on prescriptions and temporary solutions. I also made painful visits to the past and faced my childhood traumas. It was some of the most emotionally difficult, lonely, and uncomfortable times of my life.

A year ago today, I was involved with a man who questioned my worth like no other. With him, I applied the lessons I’d learned from facing my parent wound head-on. In the brief period with him, I finally realized that what I knew to be okay wasn’t okay. This involved unlearning and re-learning of my lifelong beliefs. I was so overwhelmed once I reached the revelation that I couldn’t do anything for a month. I needed to heal. That was heavy but necessary.

Today, I am looking back at the past five years of my life. I am thankful for all the things I got to enjoy, experience, and overcome. I feel light, optimistic, and peaceful. I know that I earned this peace. I faced my demons. I didn’t run away from what scared me. I love the person I’m becoming. I love discovering unexplored parts of myself. I keep shedding and evolving.

#stories #healing

#vibes

People who talk about others who are not in the same room People who worship figures they’ve never met People who are overly materialistic People who bash others to feel better about themselves People who project themselves onto others People who are stuck in their labels People who blame their labels and upbringings for their misfortunes People who keep running towards escapism I no longer have space for these people

I need more clarity and directness I need more complexity I need more courage I need more density I need more depth I need more kindness, rather than surface-level niceness I need people who openly and vulnerably talk about themselves I need people who look within themselves for answers People who are real, even if they might appear offensive or stupid People with a backbone One-of-a-kind originals In tune with themselves and the world Passionate like fire and flow like water.

#vibes

All my life, I have been searching for a teacher, mentor, role model, and inspiration I could only find guidance in nature, not in human form The trees listen to me The water purifies me The sun heals and vitalizes me The moon allows me to reflect The rocks connect me to my ancient memories No human could help me And then I realized I was the teacher I was the mentor I was the role model and the inspiration.

#healing

You have no idea how little you know.

#vibes

These days, I feel like I’m losing things left and right. Physical goods are breaking. People are leaving. I keep selling and eliminating stuff from my space. I don’t know what’s coming next, but all these losses feel right. Somehow, they make sense.

I transcribe what my heart is feeling into words I don’t think I feel I express Unedited Unmanicured I give it to you straight It’s raw, how I do it It’s honest It’s too unbelievable and pure For those who said to me “You are all talk.”

What I thought I wanted What I thought I needed What I didn’t know I wanted What I didn’t know I needed

Do I really want to do that? Do I want to be that? Do I want to stay this way? Or that way? How about all of that? Or none of that?

Who even is this person? Me, I’m talking about me

My ideas and perspective Cultivated from birth to now They are popping up in my dreams In my thoughts In conversations Deep in my subconscious Like, “Hey, we are in you!”

They are evolving and shifting And they are dissolving This feels unfamiliar Yet incredibly natural Where have I been this whole time? It’s time to get used to this newness.

People come and go. Some stay through thick and thin. Some leave to work on themselves and their unfinished business. Some want to give me space. Very often, it’s simply that our time is up. We no longer resonate with each other. And that’s okay. We are all on our paths. We are just doing our best with what we know.

Eventually, many of them come back. They want to pick up where we left off. They want to apologize for disappearing. They want to defend themselves. They want a closure. They want a new beginning.

Reconciliations are interesting. I welcome them. The reason is this: I’m fascinated by how we evolve and grow when separated from those we used to have a tie with. It’s amazing how much we can change if we move with intention. Such change is totally possible. I’ve done it. People close to me have done it. Sometimes, the only way to our truth is through detaching ourselves from outside influences and tending to our needs in solitude. How can we see things clearly when our world and perspective are chaotic and clouded?

It also stuns me how little some of us change. Or should I rephrase, how some of us refuse to change. These people often seek external validation for their happiness and fulfillment. They want to feel needed and loved. It’s very human. We all want to be loved. But when the need is excessive, it creates a toxic, helpless loop that never ends. It’s painful to watch, especially when it’s someone we care about.